Dinner with a Side of Drama
Get the family together, they said — it'll be fun, they said
I’ve been married for 22 years. Over time, my husband and I have come to realize that our relatives have many traits in common, particularly our respective mothers. While that might make them equally irksome occasionally, it does not make them kindred spirits. They have unflattering opinions of each other, to put it mildly. My husband and I got a front-row seat to their opera of clashing attitudes before we even got married.
The meeting
About a month before the wedding, we invited our close relatives to dinner so they could all meet each other. There wasn’t a large crowd for various reasons (illness, estrangement, death), but our mothers both attended. My mother-in-law had to drive two hours and is the kind of person who always arrives early, so we asked her to show up 15 minutes past when we wanted her there. My mom lived closer, but she could be headed next door and show up late, so we asked her to arrive thirty minutes earlier than we had planned. They appeared almost simultaneously, and all was well until they started comparing notes and turned on us. Still, at least we had everyone together.
We took the family to an expensive, snazzy steak house. Ok, it’s in a mall, but it’s a pretentious mall with little…
